Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…It’s about learning to dance in the rain.
I have this quote up on a wall in my house. It is inspirational and reminds me to live in the here and now. A summer storm blew through Pennsylvania this evening and I opened the door to let the dogs in from their evening bathroom run. As I waited for them to come in from the rain, I heard the glorious sound of raindrops on the roof above me and I got a sudden urge to dance in the rain. I let the dogs in and grabbed my phone and put on a song and I danced under the canvas of darkness and heavy rain. It is one thing to do it figuratively, but another to do it literally. There was something cleansing and healing and freeing about feeling the warm summer rain pour down on my head and across my skin. The darkness allowed me the freedom to dance, skip, walk and just feel.
A friend posted this today:
“Morrie Schwartz, who taught social psychology at Brandeis, was the subject of the best-selling book “Tuesdays with Morrie”, his final teachings to his friend Mitch Albom before death. In the midst of the agony of Lou Gehrig’s disease, he told his last student:
“What I’m doing now,” he continued, his eyes still closed, “is detaching myself from the experience.”
“Yes, detaching myself… You know what the Buddhists say? ‘Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent.'”
But wait, I said. Aren’t you always talking about experiencing life? All the good emotions, all the bad ones? How can you do that if you’re detached?
“Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it.”
“Take any emotion – love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions – if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them – you can never get to be detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘Alright, I have experienced that emotion, I recognize that emotion. Now I’m free to detach from that emotion for a moment’…I know you think this is just about dying, but it’s like I keep telling you. When you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”
Today I found out my ex-husband of just over a week announced his engagement to his Facebook tribe. I knew it was coming…he had called and told me a wedding date over a month ago, but I was surprised by the grief this news brought on. I felt worthless and disrespected on unloved, even though I know none of it was true. Instead of trying to hide from those feelings, I let myself marinate in them for a little bit and remind myself of what is true. I am loved and deserve respect and I am priceless to my sons, my family, and to God. So, as the rain pelted me tonight and I danced, I allowed myself the freedom to let go and to live and to dance through this storm…