On Your Wedding Day

I am sitting in a hotel room after midnight in Hershey, Pennsylvania while my sons sleep on the floor it preparation for a weekend soccer tournament.  No, I am not cruel.  We have 2 beds, but they refused to share, but also both refused the beds.  Anyway, I digress.  Today, my ex-husband, of under 3 months, marries the “other woman” …the woman he left me for…the woman he left our sons for.  My mind is a jumbled web of thoughts and emotions that won’t be quieted tonight.  So, here is my letter to him…he may never see it, because I am not going to send it to him and because he has made it abundantly clear that he doesn’t want to hear it…, so I leave this for the world to read. I have nothing to hide.

Dear J****,

A year ago, if someone would have told me that tonight I would be alone in a hotel room with our sons for a soccer tournament on the day of your marriage to the woman who you would give up everything for, I would have laughed at the absurdity.  Yet, that is exactly the story that has played out.  I know our marriage wasn’t perfect, but I also never imagined the way in which it would implode in a matter of months (though I now know…it imploded years ago for you).  So, today I release you.  I can honestly say, the love I felt for you is gone and hasn’t been replaced with hatred, but rather a sadness.  A sadness for myself, for our sons, and yes, for you.  I know you think you are marrying the “love of your life” and maybe that is true.  But know this, you gave up the best thing God gave you – a woman committed to staying with you through good times and bad and two amazing sons.  I don’t pretend to know the woman you left us for, but I do believe that a relationship that started in lies will not end in truth.  So, what do I wish for you on this day…a day where I am grieving and where our sons are confused…

May you never be on the receiving end of the kind of betrayal you put myself and our sons through.  I hope that one day you develop empathy…empathy for the lives you and she chose to hurt to be together.  Maybe someday you will be able to look at our sons and say, “I am sorry my actions hurt you, please forgive me”.  Most importantly…I pray that one day you find what you are looking for.

Goodnight and goodbye.  I can’t say that I wish you well…maybe I will be able to someday.  For now, I wish that your restless, longing soul finds peace…not a peace found in the love of another, but a peace found in knowing you are loved by God.

Farewell,

C********

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5 thoughts on “On Your Wedding Day”

  1. I remember the day my ex married the woman he cheated on me with. I refused to get out of bed, I cried for hours.

    Karma is a very real thing, though. I’ve watched it get my ex for the past nine years. I continue to watch his unhappiness unfold. Meanwhile, I’m happily remarried.

    Give it time. Then sit back and watch.

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  2. I have recently discovered your blog. What an ASS your ex is. I likely have no words to provide comfort to you. I do want to point this out though — in an earlier post you mentioned reaching out to him to provide him with this or that as it relates to the boys. HELL NO. He is capable of looking up information on the schools’ websites and figuring stuff out.
    He needs to manage his relationship with the boys — and you need to step out of it. It is on him.
    I am guessing that he isn’t a very present parent. Don’t make things easier for him. Not your job anymore.

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      1. good for you! I know it is hard. You want to share little stories and challenges with him. But you simply can’t. Does he see the boys at all? On what terms?

        do they have their own electronic devices to communicate with him should they want too?

        I presume he pays for all travel to see him — i would not life a finger to arrange it.

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