Letting Go to Live

On Friday night, I found myself sitting in the dark filled with melancholy, which has been fueled by my exhaustion.  I started my new job this week working “normal” hours (9-5:30) for the first time in my career as a nurse.  I am eager to establish a new routine and a new normal for the boys and I, but I was just so very tired.  I have been waking every morning before dawn to workout, walk the dogs, and have a short quiet time before waking Bolt for his summer school classes.  By the time Bolt hops on the bus, I have approximately 30 minutes to shower and get ready before hopping in the car for my 40-minute commute.  This week work has been brutal as I have been staring at a computer screen doing corporate training for five straight days.  I often find that with any major transition, such as a move or new job, it zaps my energy and drains my battery like a phone on data roaming.  By the time I get home from work it is nearly 6:30 and this week I have been blessed with a sitter who had the boys fed and off to their evening activities by the time I got home (with the help of Blue Apron).

As I sit here, I worry about the coming months, once soccer kicks into full gear, and school resumes for the boys and for myself.  I worry about how I will learn to juggle kids, pets, exercise, cooking, cleaning, chauffeuring, school work, laundry, as well as fitting in some fun and laughter.  I am a worrier by nature and these are the things that will wake me from dead sleep, even when exhausted.  I am trying to learn to let go of certain things and embrace others.

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Things to Let Go

  • Elaborate, home cooked vegetarian meals every night
  • Clean house with all the boys’ clothes and dog toys picked up before bed
  • Dinner at the same time every night with the same food for everyone
  • Staying up until midnight trying to get ready for the next day
  • Keeping too tightly to a schedule
  • Making sure everything is “done” before allowing myself some time for fun or doing something fun with the boys

Things to Embrace

  • Simpler, home cooked meals (some with meat for the boys, if I have vegetarian leftovers for myself) with meal prepping on Sundays
  • Clean kitchen at night (if the kitchen is clean, my whole house feels cleaner)
  • Planning our evenings ahead so that I know when we can try to eat together, even if it is at 8 pm.
  • Giving myself a bedtime (a tired mom does not make for a nice mom or good employee)
  • Continuing to get up early for exercise, dog walking, and quiet time for my mental and spiritual health
  • Looking ahead at the week on Sunday so that things don’t catch me by surprise, but also allow for deviations in schedule
  • Spontaneous and planned fun activities

At the end of the day, my sons may not remember the beautiful meal I made with all the food groups, but they will remember the 15-minute spontaneous pillow fight (thus the reason I have a stash of old pillows under my bed) or roasting s’mores in the back yard.  In the meantime, I seriously need to find a few single mom hacks to make life just a little bit easier.  The rest I must give over to God.

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